Working With Difficult People In Groups
These notes originally were originally written as support materials for Employee Focus Group Leader Training. However, with some adaptation, responses might be applied to facilitation or leadership of other types of groups.
Most people who come to groups are constructive. Most group members are sensitive to the need for everyone to participate and exercise restraint over wayward individuals. However, at times the facilitators must intervene to make a group more productive or more satisfying for the majority.
The
basic management comes from establishing rapport with people through making them
feel welcomed and valued as soon as they arrive in the building. Continue to
make people feel appreciated throughout the group. If these steps are not enough
to settle people then you may need to take actions like the ones below.
| Character & Symptoms | Responses |
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The
Wallflower Will
only speak when asked directly Limited responses |
Ask
often and probe initial response. Perhaps give them time to think and come
back to them. Reward
every contribution with smiles, nods and thank-yous Start
with very simple or factual questions that they must know the answers to. Use
go-rounds Ask
them to comment on what other people have said and why they agree or
disagree. |
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The
Volcano Angry
with company, local management or for reasons not given. |
Useful
to be able to talk to this person one-to-one or at least find out what
they are wound up about before the group starts. Find
out what is the issue and recognise the impact this is having on the
person, e.g. I can see this is
putting a lot of pressure on you.
You may be able to sympathise with the person but avoid agreeing
with her or his perceptions if this may influence contributions later in
the group. If
someone agrees that s/he is very upset, ask them if they feel they are
able to take part in the group without getting more upset and without
making the group feel uncomfortable. Sit next to or as close to this person as you can. Your presence may inhibit some of their responses. |
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The
Rambler Talks
off the topic or takes group away from it.
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Make
a joke of it, e.g. But we digress! Compliment
on the range of issues being covered and point out the need you have
to focus on particular topics. Put
up an issues list which can be returned to at the end of the required
topics, if there is time. |
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The
Loudspeaker Speaks
first or loudest or longest or a combination of these.
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Say
you want people to reflect on an issue for 15 seconds before speaking and
you will signal when you are ready for responses. Choose other people to
go first. Point
out when people are talking over or shouting down others and ask them to
wait until people who have had less floor-time have contributed. Explain
to the person you value how much they are contributing but you have a
responsibility to get everyone in the group to have their say. Ask them if
they will come in towards the end of topic so as to help you. Avoid
eye-contact when person is talking or subtly signal impatience by, e.g., folded
arms |
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Clinically
Depressed Makes
Leonard Cohen sound like a cheer-leader. There
is nothing worthwhile in any part of the organisation |
Point
out you have listed several negatives and
are there any benefits ? Ask
what is being done or could be done to improve things?. Is anybody learning
from this experience? or
How might we learn from this experience? Ask
how company
compares to other organisations in this respect and, later,
what factors make the company
compare more or less favourably? |
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The
Expert Wants
to talk at length about what s/he knows (or thinks they know about). Uses
seniority, functional expertise or other status to dominate / talk down to |
Maintain
self-esteem of experts as far as possible. Their need to perform may stem
from being unsure about themselves. Make
limited use of them when an “expert” opinion is needed. Remind
them of people who haven’t spoken of have spoken relatively little. e.g.
Kim can you hold that for now
because we haven’t heard from Lee since the last topic? Make
clear that the group is not there to solve problems but to canvas opinions. |
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The
Presence Is
not shy but avoids being drawn in Appears
disdainful May
appear as brooding
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May
not feel this is a good use of her/ his time. Emphasise how company
can benefit
from results of this research. May
feel s/he is above this kind of thing. Make them feel important by
acknowledging how demanding their job is, how useful their perceptions
might be. May
resent being “volunteered”. Emphasise
how the company seeks volunteers but relies on managers to identify people and make
requests to them. Point out you would particularly like feedback on how
they were selected when we get to the review section. |
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Uneasy
Rider Challenges
purpose of focus group in middle of topic Repeated
questions about why are we doing this? Objects
to structure used or wording of a topic
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Go
back to what you said at beginning about the purpose and how output is
used. Emphasise
the difficulty senior managers have in understanding how a cross-section
of company
people are thinking. E.g. Some individuals may speak their minds but may
not be representative and
There is more and more filtering and distorting of messages
as they go up the line. Ask
them to suspend judgement until the end of the session and you will then
record in full their opinion of the group and the whole company focus group
process. Explain
benefits from previous focus groups. |
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Point
Scorer Time
wasted shooting down other people’s views
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Point
out the focus group doesn’t have to reach a consensus and it is more
useful to understand the thinking behind points of view rather than
contrasting them. Suggest
people come back to their “discussion” during break or after Focus
Group. The facilitator needs to avoid getting into an argument with someone like this. Point out the need to use group time effectively and possibly offer a one-to-one discussion at a later stage. |
Paul Burns
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